Healing Soul Wounds to Experience True Love

Jan 07, 2025

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🌟 Healing Soul Wounds to Experience True Love 🌟

That's OK. I love you.

We cannot fully grasp the meaning of true love until we love ourselves enough to accept and heal our soul wounds.

We can only accept the love we feel we deserve.

True love begins with radical love and acceptance—not just of others, but of ourselves.

It is the healing balm that soothes our deepest hurts, allowing us to love with an open heart.

As a little girl, I was teased and called names because I was very tiny and incredibly shy. Some teachers would even write in my report card that I was "socially backwards." I felt hurt and less than, wondering what was wrong with me that made others treat me this way.

The teachers I loved with all my heart were the teachers who saw past my shyness. They saw my intelligence and my compassion. They found things I could do out of my comfort zone that would make me feel worthy.

But now, as an adult, I see that the people who teased me weren’t showing my unworthiness—they were revealing their own.

A person who truly loves and accepts themselves would not have the desire to hurt or diminish another.

💖 Instead of seeing someone who wanted to hurt me, I now see someone who could not love themselves enough to accept me.

This shift in perspective changes everything.

It transforms hurt into compassion.

It allows us to stop carrying the pain others caused and to begin healing the wounds we’ve carried for far too long.

Radical self-love isn’t just about feeling good in your own skin. It’s about reclaiming your worth and freeing yourself to love and be loved without fear or shame.

I believe that is the kind of love and acceptance we all crave.

We cannot fully grasp the meaning of true love until we love ourselves enough to accept and heal our soul wounds.

True love begins with radical love and acceptance—not just of others, but of ourselves. It is the healing balm that soothes our deepest hurts, allowing us to love with an open heart.

When I was in my twenties, my spiritual teacher shared something with me that I didn’t fully understand at the time. He told me that if someone said to him, “I don’t love you,” his response was always, “That’s OK, I love you.”

I remember being struck by his words but confused by their meaning. How could he respond with such grace and love to rejection?

It wasn’t until years later, during my two-year deep dive in my sex, love, and relationship coaching certification and sacred sexuality initiation, that I finally experienced the profound truth behind his wisdom.

I healed and learned with 500 women from around the world and discovered that we were more alike than different. Together, we explored our shared humanity, our wounds, and our longing for love.

This journey led me to understand that many of the challenges we face in love come from something deeper: soul wounds.

What Are Soul Wounds?

Soul wounds are emotional and spiritual hurts we carry, often without realizing it.

Our souls come into this world with wounds we want to experience and heal in this lifetime. At an unconscious level, we choose our parents and the circumstances that will allow us to experience these wounds. Once we are born, we forget this purpose, but the wounds remain, shaping our relationships and sense of self.

Soul wounds often manifest as abandonment, rejection, or betrayal. These wounds can separate us from our authentic selves. For example, if you carry a soul wound of rejection, you may feel rejected by others and, in turn, reject parts of yourself that you perceive as unworthy. You will also reject these things in others both consciously and unconsciously.

My seventh grade teacher, Sister Michelle, taught me many life lessons, but one thing she said stuck with me since I was twelve years old. Sister Michelle told us that whatever we don't like in someone else - we don't like in ourselves. That was my first conscious lesson of the rejection wound.

These wounds aren’t just personal—they can also be passed down through generations, shared between parents, children, and even ancestors. But today, I want to focus on individual healing—because your healing journey is where transformation begins.

Steps to Heal Your Soul Wounds

Healing soul wounds requires compassion, patience, and a willingness to face the parts of yourself you’ve hidden away. Here’s how you can begin:

💖 Recognize and Understand the Wound

Reflect on past experiences that caused emotional pain.
Identify the emotions associated with those moments—sadness, anger, or fear.
Label the wound or rejected part of yourself to understand its impact on your relationships and identity.

💖 Practice Self-Compassion

Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, as you would a frightened little kitten or child.
Validate your feelings—it’s okay to not be okay. Feelings are energy in motion. We are not our feelings. Feel them and let them go. You don't have to keep the pain living within you forever.
Engage in activities that bring you joy and comfort. Music, singing, and dancing helps me release my emotions.

💖 Process Your Emotions

Journaling: Write down your thoughts and feelings to release what you’ve been carrying. Writing helps me process my deepest emotions and heals me immensely. When we are journaling, we receive answers from our higher self that are incredibly eye-opening and healing.
Therapy and Coaching: Seek guidance from a professional to explore the root of your pain and learn how to cope.
Trusted Conversations: Share your experiences with loved ones who offer a safe, supportive space. Some of us may not have a loved one yet who offers a safe, supportive space to share our experience. When I didn't have anyone to share my deepest feelings with, I sought out spiritual mentors. Whatever we ask for and have faith we will receive. God will provide.

💖 Mindfulness and Self-Care

Meditation: Sit with your emotions in the present moment without judgment.
Nature Walks: Spend time outdoors to reconnect with your inner peace. The forest and the ocean have always been incredibly healing for me. I feel revived and refreshed after hearing the sounds of nature and dancing with the breeze.
Creative Outlets: Dance, paint, or sing—let your creativity be a part of your healing. I feel so deeply that the hurt in my heart is often unbearable, so I have learned how to transform my pain into creative projects and art. As a little girl and young woman, I would dance for hours alone in my room. I still do this as a wiser more mature woman. Watching myself dance in the mirror makes me truly see who I am, and I love myself even more.

💖 Forgiveness

Forgive yourself for the ways you’ve coped and survived.
Forgive others—not for their sake, but for your own emotional freedom.

Healing doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a process—a sacred journey of rediscovering your worth, reclaiming your power, and returning to your authentic self.

True Love Begins Within

As I reflect on the words of my spiritual teacher, “That’s OK, I love you,” I understand now that love is a choice we make, first for ourselves.

When we heal our soul wounds, we unlock the ability to love and be loved freely, without fear or shame. We stop rejecting ourselves and instead embrace the fullness of who we are.

What soul wounds are you ready to heal? How would your relationships change if you loved yourself with radical acceptance?

Your journey to true love starts with you—and it starts today.

Sending you and all those rejected parts of you so much love and many blessings that one day you will be able to do this for yourself too.