Letting Go of Past Relationships

Aug 28, 2024

Relationships shape us, mold us, and sometimes leave deep imprints on our hearts and souls. Whether we’ve experienced great love or profound heartbreak, the ties we form with others can linger long after the relationship ends. In Chapter 18, "Soul Ties," of my book Before You Say I Do: Transform Your Love Life From Within, I focus on the importance of breaking these ties to reclaim our power.

"No matter how much healing and inner work you do, and no matter how carefully you vet potential partners in the future, people do hurt each other, consciously or unconsciously. People do diminish and are mean to each other, intentionally or unintentionally, and we have the power to forgive them, forgive ourselves, and let go.

Your past lover may have energetically fed off your power and/or pain. Your past lover may have also had many of his or her own issues, but for your recovery to be complete, none of their issues matter now. As you begin the process of reclaiming your personal power and sexual sovereignty, you must stop trying to understand or analyze who they were, what they were doing, or what you should have said or done in response. All of these activities will keep you stuck in the past and in the grip of your ex-lover. All you need to know at this moment is that this person could not partner with you in your mutual benefit for whatever reason.

Even if your past lover was focused on destroying something precious to you, it is time to put all of that aside. You can only recover your personal power by turning toward yourself. There is nothing to be gained going forward that can be found in the past rehashing your old lover's gifts, flaws, and actions or the complicated story of the relationship. Now is the time for you to dive deeply into your own gifts and choices, and to look at your boundaries and how much you compromise or bend towards the choices of others."

Letting go isn’t about forgetting what happened but about reclaiming your energy, your power, and your sovereignty. It’s about choosing to focus on yourself, your growth, and your future. This chapter guides you on how to do just that—by stopping the rehashing and starting to focus on your gifts, your boundaries, and your choices.

Are you ready to reclaim your power? Start your journey today by diving into Before You Say I Do: Transform Your Love Life From Within. Purchase "Before You Say I Do: Transform Your Love Life From Within by Catherine Josephine