Why Would Someone Ghost me After Dating Three Months?

Jun 15, 2024

Ghosted After Three Months? Here's Why It Might Have Happened

Afraid of Conflict

Sometimes, people vanish because they're afraid of conflict. If you’ve had emotional outbursts or what some might call "adult tantrums," it can be uncomfortable for someone to deal with. They might think it's easier to disappear than face a potentially confrontational breakup.

Feeling Inadequate/Fear of Rejection

You might be out of their league. Maybe you're more attractive, ambitious, successful, or educated. They see you as amazing, and this leaves them feeling not good enough. They fear you’ll realize you deserve better, so they bow out before that happens.

All About You

If the relationship felt one-sided, with you always wanting to do what you like, or being rude to his family, friends, or in general, it can become annoying. They might feel you’re inconsiderate of their world and feelings and see you as not ready for a relationship.

Coming on Too Strong

Planning weekends, weddings, and babies too soon can overwhelm someone who isn’t ready. Moving too fast can spook a potential love interest, especially if they’re not on the same page as you yet. Remember to date in the present and refrain from future-planning with this person you barely know.

Guilt and Deception

They might feel guilty if they were misleading you or someone else. When things get serious, and they’re not in it for the long haul, guilt can make them retreat.

Commitment Issues

When they realize it’s getting too serious, and you’re looking for a relationship while they’re just looking for a hookup, they might disappear. It’s easier for them to ghost than to have an honest conversation about differing expectations.

People Pleaser

Some men and women are people pleasers who avoid vulnerability and honesty because they don’t want to be seen as the "bad guy or girl." Ghosting feels like a less confrontational way to end things.

Unclear Interest

If you rarely text or call, leaving them to make all the effort, they might think you're not interested. An unbalanced effort can push someone away, leading them to think it’s best to end things quietly.

Moving Too Quickly

Saying "I love you" before they’re ready can be a big step too soon. Catching feelings first can be scary for someone who’s not there yet, leading them to ghost you rather than discuss their slower pace.

What Does This Mean for You?

A common thread through these reasons is that ghosting often reflects the ghoster's issues—they're not ready for real relationships, feelings, or conversations. If you do get ghosted, walk away knowing you dodged a bullet. You're better off moving on to someone who’s ready for the depth and honesty you bring to a relationship.

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